So I wrote this letter awhile ago and decided to share it, don’t know why just felt I should…
Dear Nev and Max,
Ever since our cable suddenly decided to go on the fritz 3 nights ago we have embarked on a delightful journey with you down memory lane through your show Catfish. With our cable down my boyfriend and I ended up tossing ideas at each other about what to watch online. He wanted a movie, I wanted a show. We discussed netflix and from earlier cableless times had exhausted the repertoire of UK Favorites, Dr. Who, Torchwood, and Mrs. Brown’s Boys. Months earlier we had watched the Movie Catfish, and in one of those exquisite moments of absolute clarity and sheer genius I said “We should watch the show catfish”. I kid you not in 3 days we are 9 episodes into the second season. Tonight lying here sleepless with our fussy 9 month old I felt compelled to write you an email with our online love story. I imagine you must recieve 100s if not thousands of stories but I hope ours puts a smile on your romantic faces well at least Nev’s.
My boyfriend Graeme and I met online at the tailend of 2010 it was a difficult time for me as I was in a mentally and at times physically abusive relationship and had just admitted to myself despite the stigma from childhood belief systems that I was suffering from depression. Seeking out friendship, understanding, spiritual awareness and myself I joined a paranormal website. I met many friendly and kind people who listened and cared, Graeme among them. We did not immediately fall in love but we were friends, thru out the course of the next 2 years I went thru a break up, therapy, a short lived frightening relationship, getting back with my abusive ex, and finally super severe depression to the point where I could no longer even work. Spring 2012 I had been forced to delete my fb, quit visiting the paranormal site and had pushed away my family and friends. The situation in my relationship was just a giant downward spiral. The more depressed I became the worse the relationship and vice versa. I always longed and hoped for someone who would love me and care for me for who I was, who made me feel like the only girl in the world, and would treat me with the love and respect I desired even tho I never truly believe I deserved it. I truly never thought I would find it in this life. It was during this time of turmoil right before my stint of unemployment began that one day rather randomly someone added me on blackberry messenger. You have to understand I was very afraid. My blackberry was hacked by my ex as well as my laptop. He had key loggers on everything. Copies of my conversations with friends and family. I was not allowed to have male friends on fb or anywhere else. Even tho we had only been intimate a few times over a period of 2 or 3 years I had never cheated on my then bf but he was irrationally jealous. By this time even tho I was afraid I was praying for a way out of this toxic relationship and also feeling very alone. Warily I asked who they were and where they had gotten my pin. Graeme then told me, it was him and he had gotten my pin from a mutual friend of ours. I was delighted. Graeme and I had always had enjoyable fun conversations. We started talking to each other on bbm as much as possible. He was kind, understanding, and over a short amount of time our conversations suddenly became more and more intimate. It wasnt very long till I realized I was head over heels in love with this gorgeous redhead from scotland. We became inseparable if he was awake we were texting if I was away from home or somewhere private we were texting the seven hour time difference made it a bit easier to hide. Due to my depression I had to quit my job. Our relationship was suddenly not as easy to hide and I think at that point I just stopped caring. One day my ex confronted me about it ofcourse he had copies of our bbm messages and I admitted everything. I was relieved in more ways than one, the hellish relationship ended and I was free to love graeme. This happened in may of 2012. As time went by we became closer and closer he knew things about me no one else did and he shared with me as well. Life was hectic and rough as they tend to be at the dissolution of a relationship. 6 years of stuff to be split apart, moving into separate places, trying to explain everything to my 7 yr old without making my ex the bad guy. Graeme was there. He was kind, gentle, patient, everything I had ever wished for. If only we hadnt been so far apart. We talked about a life together, of family, of our desires for the future. One day in july my sister sent me a tweet that said flights from Edinburgh to Calgary, Alberta, Canada, were on sale. I dared to hope an emailed him the link. By this time we were not only texting all day but skyping and picture msging as well. We talked about him coming to visit to meet me. We were excited and apprehensive. Then he just did it he bought the round trip flight with the plan to stay until october. On July 25th 2012 the very best day of my life I met the man of my dreams. He arrived here and was heckled by immigration after his 13hr flight he was to exhausted to be nervous. We had dinner with my sister, and her hubby. I kissed him on her couch when no one was looking. It felt so right. We finally got home and we havent looked back since. We surprisingly ended up pregnant and now have a 9 month old who is the cutest baby ever. He has seen me at my worst, my craziest, my sickest, my lowest and he still thinks, I am the most beautiful woman in the world. I love him more every day for his kindness, gentleness, patience and his moral integrity. I have been blessed beyond belief with love I never truly believed could exist, but it does. He is the man of my dreams, the great love of my life. All of this thanks to the internet. Gratefully not everyone lies there are some fairytale endings as well.
Thank you for your time, for reading this story, for giving us the chance to relive our moment with each story you tell. We wish you much love, blessings, success and most of all true happiness.